I am a recovering perfectionist.
I did a really cool thing recently to reset my own expectations and it's WORKING.
I decided in the fall that I wanted to post to LinkedIn five days a week. I made a commitment to do it. I promised myself I would.
By the fifth day of the week, I was sometimes feeling pressure to get something good out there, and if I didn't have something that lit me up, I'd post a quote from someone else (which I sometimes love, but in this case, it felt like a cop out).
Then I changed my commitment. I recommitted to posting, but with an INTENTION to post five days a week.
This gave perfectionist me an out.
If I don't make it to five days a week, but I'm still posting frequently, I'm meeting my commitment to post frequently, even if it's not five days.
If I post five days a week, I'm also fulfilling my intention. But, if I don't, somehow knowing I didn't break a commitment satisfies my perfectionist checklist.
I'm loving this new look at intention vs. commitment.
It's gotten me back to feeling like I want to, instead of that I have to.
How can you reframe a commitment to an intention and retrain your mind to want to do things instead of feeling obligated to?